There is an ancient story illustrating the concept that we cannot please everyone in our decision making and that whatever we do may end up the target of criticism. However right and well-meaning our action, we may be rest assured that someone will come along to criticize us.
Accompanied by his twelve-year-old son, an elderly man went shopping in a village market about five miles from their home. They purchased some groceries, and a donkey for use in their business. Returning home in the late afternoon, the old man felt pretty tired. So he rode upon the donkey’s back and the young boy walked alongside. A group of men saw them from a distance and commented aloud: “Look at that selfish man. He is merrily riding the donkey, compelling the poor little boy to walk along.” This remark touched the father to the quick. He decided to walk, and had the boy mount the donkey. No sooner had they gone a little distance than a man shouted out: “What kind of thoughtless and stupid boy are you? You are having a joy ride, compelling your old father to trudge along.” On hearing that remark, father and son decided both would share the donkey’s back. But they had not gone more than a hundred yards when a pedestrian observed to his companion: “See how those cruel people are driving the poor donkey to death.” On hearing this accusatory remark both father and son got down from the donkey’s back. They felt pity for the animal. They now decided to walk along with the donkey. But were they then past all criticism? By no means. Another group they passed observed: “Look at those foolish men. They have a nice, strong donkey. But instead of using it for comfort, they are walking wearily by its side.”
The story shows that there can be no line of action which will entirely escape criticism, or which will be pleasing to everyone. In making our decisions, then, we cannot be guided by what “they think” or what “everyone thinks”. What everyone thinks is the way of indecision.
Taken from “Mastering the Problems of Living” by Dr. Haridas Chaudhuri
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